Following's an article from Osho Times- December 2004 which i really love........its one of the finest writings i hav yet found and read........ jus go thru it......m sure u'r goin to love it........

FORGET LONELINESS........

Loneliness is a social disease......But aloneness is our existential reality....... It is in this rich soil of reality that love can grow.........

One has to be able to live alone.........but to live alone does not mean that you cannot relate....On the contrary, a man who can live alone becomes so full of joy, becomes so brimful, that he has to relate.....he becomes a rain cloud; he has to shower. He becomes a flower so full of fragrance that it has to open its petals and allow its fragrance to be released to the winds.

A person who knows how to be alone becomes so full of song that he has to sing it. And where can you sing a song? You can sing a song only in love, in relating, in sharing with people. But you can share only what you have in the first place.

The problem is that people don't have any joy in their being and they are bent upon sharing it. Now, two miserable people bent upon sharing their joys with each other - what is going to happen? The misery will not be doubled, it will be multiplied.

That's what people are doing to each other: husbands to wives and wives to husbands, and parents to children and children to parents, and friends to friends. In fact enemies are not so inimical as friends - torturing each other, unloading their miseries on each other, throwing their dirt on each other.

They are stinking. What can they do? When they come close to you, you have to suffer their stink. And you have to suffer if you want them to suffer your stink. So its a bargain. You cannot live alone, they cannot live alone - you have to be together. Even if it stinks, at least there is the consolation that "I am not alone."

A man who knows how to be alone knows how to be meditative. Aloneness means meditation - just relishing your own being, celebrating your own being. Meditation gives you the insight of your own inner treasure, and in love you share it. That's what I mean when I say that a meditator has to be ready to be alone, so that one day he can be ready to love. Only a man who knows the beauties of solitude can love. But just a slight difference and you can miss the whole point.

The difference between aloneness and loneliness is not much. As far as language is concerned there is no difference at all; they are synonyms. In the dictionaries you will find aloneness described as loneliness, lonliness as aloneness - but that is only in the dictionaries, not in life itself. In life itself it is totally different.

You change that word loneliness; drop it completely from your mind. Learn what aloneness is - and aloneness is a beautiful phenomenon, the most beautiful. Then the presence of other meditators will be absolutely nondisturbing to aloneness. In fact, aloneness cannot be disturbed at all. It is such a crystallized state of consciousness, nothing can distract you away from it, and everything helps to make it sronger.

Have you watched this paradoxical phenomenon? You are sitting in silence....the chirping of the birds - is it disturbing the silence or enriching it? The crow - is he disturbing your silence, or helping and giving it a contrast? If you are really silent, then even in the marketplace you will be surprised that you silence deepens. If your silence is disturbed be the market-place, that simply means it was not silence in the first place. It was just forced, cultivated, practiced, plastic; it was not true. If true silence is there, nothing can disturb it.

But forget that word loneliness; it is ugly, it is pathological. A man who seeks friendship, love, companionship, out of loneliness is not going to find it. In fact, with whomsoever he will associate he will feel cheated and he will make the other feel cheated. He will feel tired and bored, and he will make the other feel tired and bored. He will feel sucked and he will make the other feel sucked, because both will be sucking on each other's energies. And they don't have much in the first place. Their streams are running very thin; they are like summer streams in a desertland. You cannot take any water out of them.

But if you seek friendship and love and companionship out of aloneness, you are a flooded river, a river in the rains. You can share as much as you want. And the more you share, the more you will have. This is the inner economics: the more you give, the more you get from existence. Once you have known the knack of it you become a spendthrift, you are no longer a miser.

(Excerpted from The Dhammapada: The Way of the Buddha, Osho)

Real love is not a search to go against loneliness. Real love is to transform loneliness into aloneness. To help the other -if you love the person, you help him to be alone. You don't fill him or her. You don't try to complete the other in some way by your presence. You help the other to be alone, to be full out of her or his own being that you will not be a need.

When the person is totally free, then out of that freedom sharing is possible. Then he gives much, but not as a need; he gives much, but not as a bargain. He gives much because he has much. He gives because he enjoys giving.

Lovers are alone, and a real lover never destroys your aloneness. He will always be totally respectful about the aloneness of the other. It is sacred. He will not interfere in it. He will not spoil that space.

But ordinarily, lover, so-called lovers, are very much afraid of the other and the other's aloneness, independence; they are very much afraid - because they think if the other is independent then they will not be needed, then they will be discarded. The woman goes on trying that the husband should remain dependent, always in need, so that she can remain valuable. And the husband goes on trying in every way so that the woman always remains in need, so that he remains valuable. This is a bargain and there is continuous conflict, struggle. The struggle is that everybody needs his freedom.

Love strengthens freedom. And anything that destroys freedom is not love. It must be something else. Love and freedom go together; they are two wings of the same bird. Whenever you see that your love is going against your freedom, then you are doing something else in the name of love. Freedom is the criterion: love gives you freedom, makes you free, liberates you.

(Excerpted from The Search, Osho)

Think more of aloneness. Celebrate aloneness, celebrate your pure space, and great song will arise in your heart. And it will be a song of awareness, it will be a song of meditation. It will be a song of an alone bird calling in the distance - not calling to somebody in paritcular, but just calling because the heart is full and wants to call, because the cloud is full and wants to rain, because the flower is full and the petals open and the fragrance is released.....unaddressed. Let your aloneness become a dance.

(Excerpted from The Guest, Osho)

This post of mine presents in front of you some of the views from osho-times (August 2008), which i like :-

1. Just get deep into a feeling that u r nothing......u cant do anything ....... its God who is doing everything.........this feeling is to kill your narcissism/conceit........ u r just an instrument.......

There is no point in gettin disturbed with the feeling that u r nothing.......each n every person in this world is bringing this thing or that with him.....somebody is bringing money..some bring intelligence........to foster their own conceit.........you just get out of this false competition by submitting all your goodness to God...........u will urself be ahead of them all.........but remember!!! narcissism has its own small ways to get into you........dont let it enter you for you have yourself been out the meaningless competition...

2. "Jivan k mahattvpurna kshana wo hai, jab ek vyakti us kaam ko khoj leta hai jo uske bhitar ki sambhavana hai..... tab uske vyaktitva me ek nikhar...ek prakash... ek prafullata aa jati hai...."

For parents to love their children truely....let them not foster ambitions in their children .....for it kills their natural being.......let the kids be the reflections of God.......let the nature magnify in them the possibility it has implanted in them ...... and then motivate your child on that possibility so that he enjoys his whole life doing the work he loves and for which his being is given birth to by the Almighty. Let him free from the boredom and misery which has engulfed the whole world of today.

3. Meditation - Only those moments in life are valuable when u r doing something purposelessly.

Meditation is nothing but to leave all the activities......whether physical or mental......the person who leaves all the activities....means who steps out of the unending race.....who stops.....now becomes available to himself.........and getting oneself is everything....

4. Self-realisation - It doesnt mean to give your attention to anything but to see off everything with attention.

Inside there is a chaos.........24 hrs, consciousness is relying upon this thing or that.....and due to this it is not getting upon self. Therefore if nothing external is catching your attention......then only one way remains......the way to self....

5. Your innerself should get richer and richer day by day........Let old men possess even more prosperous and richer innerself........and then nothing is beautiful than getting older....and nothing is even happier......then, old age becomes the peak of the whole life.....

6.When life is extrovert, consciousness flows towards the outer world.......and then......it produces its symptoms viz. anger, hatred and violence.......therefore these(anger, hatred and violence) are just symptoms that your conscience is not inward but outward.....and they are not the reasons of extrovercy or outward flow of your consciousness.... they just inform you that 'get in balance'...'the flow of conscience is to be turned inside.........and by the time it happens.........u will find that anger, hatred, violence, attraction ..all such evils get demolish themselves........

7. Lover means who will never be ready for anything less than God.........

8. I always like the trait of courage........it culminates limitations and boundaries..........it brings you more close to God......and only courageous people have got God.....

Here through this post, i want to share with u the most eternal and divine idea of my life....on which i want my whole personality to b based..........and that is explained through this prayer.....

O God!! make me a source of thy love in this world........

make me a source of thy peace in this world..........

make me a source of thy energy and light in this world.......

for i to show way to misers, losts and poors.....

make me a contributer rather than a consumer........

O God! grant me so that i may not seek

to b consoled as to console;

to b understood, as to understand;

to b loved, as to love;

For it is in giving that we recieve,

it is in pardoning that we are pardoned.

-inspired by Dale Carnegie's H2SWASL

My Realisations - 1

There are many times when we start inward journey, just to have a refresh and more clear insight of external circumstances around us..............there are many moments when we read great sayings from great people who said such to guide us and we try to connect the same with our real lives...............many of such sayings/quotations are read/heard by us a number of times........and we even know their meaning/sense........but it is not just that........It happens a very less number of times that we are exactly able to realize the exact feeling and experience of the narrator/quoter/thinker.........Here i am not just talking about mere quotations, i am also including in them many well-established and common ways of meditation, self-realization etc......in fact, my following sentences will be only about some of those well-established methods.........

There have been many such moments in my life when i have realized and really experienced the real feeling of the fact-establisher.......Some of them are as follows:-

1) Work is worship

We have read it so many times.......from our childhood.........and just thought that who the hell is interested in either of them(work or worship)...........neither of them are for us....... In other words, so far i am concerned, i just thought that who can take work as worship and even who enjoys worship......but reality is what i realized four years back from now..........it was when i prepared for my P.E-I(Professional Education Examination - I, first stage of Chartered Accountancy course)..........Now, many of you would think(who have gone through P.E.-I once) that the studies of this exam are really demanding but not to the extent that they make you undergo such realization............For such friends of mine, i want here to disclose that i am from Science-Bio section and for me it was really a matter of life and death to pass this examination(when i even dont know the abcd of debit-credit system).........for i had suffered failure in Medical Entrance Examinations once earlier.........at the preparation time for P.E.I, i believed and followed that my job is to do an honest hardwork(3-4months, for i awakened late for preparations) and God's job of giving the result will start after the exams(3-4 months, for our results take so long time to come that we can prepare for another exam in that slot of time). .........This was just a mere thought when i commenced..........but as i proceeded during preparations, this thought of mine settled as a belief............

Within a month or so, the above belief got more refined and now, whatever i did, to me it was like, worshipping God as if i was trying to make him happy to give me positive result...............I just did studies with my all heart and soul (for each and every person has his own way of worshipping)..................

CHARACTERISTICS WHICH GAVE BIRHT TO ABOVE BELIEFS AND WHICH IN TURN WERE MADE MORE AND MORE RIGID AND FIRM BY THIS THOUGHT-PROCESS:-

(i)i even didnt give time to myself to think even about my personal relationships...........in fact i was so drowned that i went into isolation for months.........

(ii)i ate less food(just two chapatis in lunch, two in dinner, and tea two times a day for those 3-4months) for more food causes heavyness/drowsyness in the following hours.................

Please dont take all this otherwise ........i dont mean to show anything but all i want to say is........

Yes ......... Work Can Become Worship Sometimes.

(iii)i slept for exact 6 hours a day and woke up always 10 min before my alarm rang(and stopped it so that other family members might not get disturbed).........I was able to wake up early and study whenever i wanted for i believed that......."Nobody dies of insomnia"..........and one more strategy which maintained an exact balance was......."God has given us day to work and night to sleep.........so one should explore night hours for work only when one has utilized each and every minute of the daytime".

(iv)......studied standing so that lazyness may not hinder my speed..........

(v)Not even a single minute in the day was there when i thought about even a single thing else............and so procrastination was very far away from me......

All the above strategies were preestablished in my mind but sole reason behind their successful implementations was determination(i think) ........i didnt let myself for even a single compromise with them in the beginning..........and it itself became a habit.........

After the completion of exams it was like that........ studies, my very purpose of living since last 3-4 months, was not there............. so i had to compel myself to get endulged in other things........But above all, that was the first time when i had believed in God..........